A quote
When I'm thin, or normal, men are easy. I got married too fast when I became normal weight. I should have waited and been more picky. I could have. But I chose the first man who would take me, my biological clock clicking loudly. I wanted a child.
I can't escape the knowledge that to most men, I'm nothing but a body. Fat, I've always been unacceptable. Only if the outer package is acceptable will they bother to examine the contents. It doesn't make me value men very much. If women are judged by their sexual attractiveness, women need to judge men of the size of their wallets or their penises, or whatever else they have to offer us.
So what does the above quote say about the fat women who are married? That their men are insecure enough that when they become attractive/desired, their sorry men will leave them. Or do they leave their sorry men? It doesn't say. Maybe both. Men who married thin women are happy with the changes. Woe to the woman who gets fat while married. He may stay if he feel he has too--but the love is gone. Again there are no stats about how often women are abandoned because of physical deterioration. Often, I'm sure.
The more interesting mental-health discovery he and his colleagues made, Pories says, were the effects the surgery had on people’s marriages. “If the woman married when she was thin, had kids, became obese, and then had the surgery, the marriage almost always got a lot better,” he explains. (An estimated 75 percent of all bariatric patients are female.) “But if the woman married someone while she was obese and then became pretty . . . well, then she found a job. Got her colors done. Felt better about herself. And almost every one of those marriages ended in divorce.”
When I'm thin, or normal, men are easy. I got married too fast when I became normal weight. I should have waited and been more picky. I could have. But I chose the first man who would take me, my biological clock clicking loudly. I wanted a child.
I can't escape the knowledge that to most men, I'm nothing but a body. Fat, I've always been unacceptable. Only if the outer package is acceptable will they bother to examine the contents. It doesn't make me value men very much. If women are judged by their sexual attractiveness, women need to judge men of the size of their wallets or their penises, or whatever else they have to offer us.
So what does the above quote say about the fat women who are married? That their men are insecure enough that when they become attractive/desired, their sorry men will leave them. Or do they leave their sorry men? It doesn't say. Maybe both. Men who married thin women are happy with the changes. Woe to the woman who gets fat while married. He may stay if he feel he has too--but the love is gone. Again there are no stats about how often women are abandoned because of physical deterioration. Often, I'm sure.
